2012年1月18日星期三

Seducing a Woman With a Text Message?

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Seducing a woman is really a form of communication and persuasion. Therefore any form of communication can be part of your seduction arsenal. These days, texting has become a potential weapon of seduction. However, to continue the weapon metaphor, if you don't know what you're doing, you can shoot yourself in the foot (or a more delicate part of your anatomy:-)One of the problems with texting (and email) is that it lacks the visual cues of body language and the audio cues of tone of voice to help convey meaning. You're left with words on their own to communicate your meaning.lingerieAs it turns out, the words we use are the least important communication.I forget the exact figures or where I read them but these made up figures are pretty close to what I remember reading: roughly 85% of meaning is communicated through body language and posture, 12% though tone of voice and only 8% through words.My point in this is that when you send a text message, you have a limited ability to communicate nuance of meaning.sexy clothing,
 
This is fine if you want to communicate a fact (for example: "the meeting's at 8") but potentially a problem if you want to engage in subtle repartee. You may intend something as humor but it might come across in text as sarcasm or a criticism.Consider how much the success of a spoken joke depends on delivery. With text, it has to be funny with words only.However, ambiguity can be a useful tactic. For example, consider the message: "thinking of you (in the most interesting ways...)". "Thinking of you" is nice enough, but "in the most interesting ways..." adds the implication of a possible sexual reference to the note.The next move depends on her response. If she seems offended, you have plausible deniability ("I didn't mean that... I was thinking of you at the museum. Where's your mind at?") If she answers in a way that seems receptive ("Just how interesting are your thoughts?") you're free to continue on.Keep this text banter light. Allusions and implications are much more enticing and seductive than direct statements. lace underwearFor a comparison, consider that most men find a woman slowly undressing or clad in lingerie much more enticing than a completely naked women plopped in front of them.OK, most men wouldn't have a problem with the completely naked woman either, but you know what I mean.Keep texting light and playful as part of your attraction strategy. It gives you a chance to communicate more frequently with the woman your interested in and, if done properly, can slowly increase her interest in you.sexy garter,

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